I don’t think I’ve ever had a good New Year’s Eve, at least not like the ones you see in the movies. Come to think of it, I’ve never had even a slightly memorable one – even when I was married and had someone to spend it with.
My ex-husband was more concerned with leaving me home with no car while he attended swingers parties to get some strange for New Year’s; I was always invited to go along, more as his pawn to get in the door with no cover fee, since single men always had to pay.
But I digress…
My typical New Year’s Eve for the past five or six years has almost always consisted of me, a bottle of bubbly and movies – alone – ending with me in bed with Mr. Xanax.
In the past I have dreaded New Year’s Eve and spending it alone, but this year I will fucking own it.
I always used to focus on how sad and pathetic it was to be spending one of the most romantic nights of the holiday season alone without a companion – this year it’s going to become my tradition of celebrating my independence and all of my accomplishments, no matter how big or small, over the past year.
This will get me in the right frame of mind for plotting and planning the coming year. Being grateful for what you already have paves the way for more things to come into your life to be grateful for.
Resolutions you ask? No. I’ve sworn those off and have replaced them with a list of what the coming year will be all about – a preview of coming attractions, if you will.
My list has items on it from the mundane to grand scale accomplishments. For instance, I want to brush up on and learn more conversational Italian (mundane) so that I won’t bumble around like a clueless tourist when I return to Italy again in the fall (grand accomplishment).
Once you can get yourself into a frame of mind that the things you want are going to happen or better yet, are already yours, the universe comes together for your and they start to materialize.
This is the entire concept behind the book The Secret – it’s all about the law of attraction. It’s a somewhat watered down and cheesy self-help/new age book, but sometimes we all need a little cheese to get us through life.
I first picked up and read The Secret back at the end of 2008, when little did I know, I was entering into the most chaotic year of my life. I was happy and thankful that I had read it before life lowered the boom on me – it helped me to stay adrift when things got really bad for me.
I still read and refer to The Secret from time to time, when I need a little pick-me-up or reminder to stay positive and on course.
Today is one of those days.
I am mapping out in my mind how I want to see myself this time next year and all of the wonderful things I want to see happen in my life.
- Of course I want to be healthy – but I will never diet again. The mere mention of the word sets me up for failure; I’ll trade that for loving my body as it is, and working to make it stronger and healthier.
- I want to travel and I will get back to traveling in 2014. I have a few road trips I’d love to make, along with going back to Italy in the fall.
- I will manifest my freedom business and watch my writing take off into new heights and directions.
Other than those few things, I want to continue living my life for me, following my passions and helping others to see and appreciate the everyday joy in their own lives.
Here are a few things to think about this evening as we say goodbye to 2013:
- What are your coming attractions for the New Year?
- How do you see yourself a year from today?
- What are you willing to do to make your dreams come true?
Here’s to a very happy and prosperous New Year for everyone!
Lots of love & light to you all!