Claiming Happiness in Life

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Why don’t we have the things we want? Why do we feel we don’t deserve the things we want?

If you take a moment to think about it, we spend entirely too much time wishing and complaining about our circumstances and other happenings in our lives – I’m guilty of this just as much as anyone else out there.

I have lived most of my adult years wishing for things in my life to get better in addition to complaining about the life I was dealt; if I had only put that energy from complaining and wishing towards taking action and changing, I would have transformed my life years ago. Lessons hard learned, but well ingrained into my mind, body and soul.

We fail to come to grips with the shocking fact that we do have everything we deserve to have; the ultimate reality kick-in-the-ass is – wait for it – the fact that we’ve already done what’s necessary to be where we are at this very moment.

Think about that for a moment and let it sink in; hard to swallow, isn’t it?

Accepting responsibility for my life being shitty up until that point was a hard pill to swallow, but once I came to terms with it, I started to take action to change the direction my life was heading. I had to surrender control as well; not every situation was in my complete control and I needed to learn to roll with the punches.

Being a Taurus, I’m as stubborn and strong-willed as they come, so change was something I always resisted. When faced with plan A not working out, I had to train myself to remember that there are 25 other letters of the alphabet to fall back on. Once I gained that ability to duck, dodge and run forward through all the obstacles I came up against, life got a lot easier.

Are you ready for the next kicker?

On the other hand, while we have done what’s necessary to be where we are at right now, we haven’t done what’s necessary to achieve what we most desire – otherwise we’d already be there.

Life is a continuous journey, the worst thing we can do is to be complacent with the way things are at any given moment. Perpetual motion forward is what we all need to strive for. Set a goal, do what is necessary to achieve it, and then once you achieve it, move forward onto the next goal.

change blvdChange is inevitable in life; every second of life is moving us forward and changing us, what we need to decide is whether or not that it is for our betterment or our demise.

Only you can create the change that will decide the most important position you will ever hold in life – where you end up.

Life isn’t going to hand you your dreams and a life of prosperity on a silver platter, you have to go out there and make it happen. You have to decide that you deserve all the happiness you can handle and then some; then all you have to do is make the intention to go out there and make it happen, come what may.

The equation is simple: Your attitude + outlook + determination = Your happiness

Not to sound cliché, but when presented with obstacles, do not see them as such; turn your setbacks into setups for something better. When life takes you down a path that is contrary to what you want and desire, do not settle; press forward! If you find that you’ve made a few wrong choices, don’t waste time worrying; get up, dust yourself off and get your focus back.

The darkness will always pass if you’re strong enough to stand through and endure it.